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SETTING GOALS AND ACHIEVING THEM
Anne Milligan, LCSW
Counseling Therapy
4010 Dupont Circle #480
Louisville, KY  40291
502-423-0220 or by e-mail at: info@annemilligan.com
 


Just the act of setting a personal goal implies that we are anticipating a change in our lives. Change does not come easily for we human beings. We resist change. The more readily we recognize our resistance, the more easily we will be able to achieve our goals. Only about 20% of people who think they need to change an unhealthy habit are actually ready to do so. Procrastination is the best friend of resistance!

IT IS NORMAL TO SET A GOAL, TO WANT TO CHANGE, AND YET TO RESIST IT AT THE SAME TIME!

Here are some tips on goal-setting that have come out of research on the subject recently:

  • Make your goal as specific as possible. Avoid abstract goals.
  • Spend time imagining with as much detail as you can what it will be like when you have mastered that goal. How will things be different than they are now? How will you be feeling better? What will you be doing? What will you be wearing? How will you be acting? How will others see you and act toward you then? This builds the "desirability" side of change, which increases your motivation for diligent follow-through when the change part becomes difficult.
  • Set small short-term goals toward your final goal, small steps that you know you can achieve right now. NOTE: That only applies to situations which do not require immediate attention, such as threats of physical violence, etc.
  • Be honest with yourself if you make excuses not to carry out the tasks related to the new goal. Facing the excuses head-on is an important step along the way to achieving your goals.
  • Make a clear and realistic plan for meeting that goal, which brings into play your family schedule, your work life, your rituals of daily living (including television-watching, etc.). Let others know of your plan and engage their support. Once you have made your goal public, it will be a lot more difficult (and humbling)to back out. Sometimes that kind of pressure is good!
  • Understand that motivation is a major factor in whether you have the energy to set appropriate goals and meet them. A number of factors are involved in the self-regulation of goal pursuit. To learn more about motivation and procrastination, please click this link: Motivation and Procrastination

    Anne Milligan is a
    Counseling Therapist in Louisville, Kentucky
    with 25 years of experience treating a large variety of problems. Call 502-423-0220 for an appointment.



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